4 parenting decisions that apply at any age
Revisit as your child grows. These are the decisions that come up at this stage, grouped by area.
In short
There are 4 decisions at this stage. For each one, the page linked below gives the options parents choose between, how strong the evidence is, and questions to ask each other.
How we decide together
- Revisiting agreements
How you will keep your decisions current as your child grows, whether that means a set check-in, a review at each age, or only when something goes wrong.
4 options · Your call · Ongoing
Emotions and resilience
- The parent's own regulation and repair
How you handle your own anger and stress, and whether you apologize and make things right with your child after losing your temper.
3 options · Evidence leans one way · Ongoing
Legal, financial and "what if" planning
- Major life disruptions (job loss, serious illness, death of a parent, ageing grandparents, moving)
How you would handle big setbacks and changes while raising a child: broad principles or specific plans.
3 options · Your call · Ongoing
- If we separate
Agreeing in advance on the principles you would follow if you ever separated, such as putting your child first and using mediation before court, and whether to write them down.
3 options · Your call · Ongoing
Last updated 2026-10-05. General information, not medical advice.