We have very little time. How much does it need?

You answer one decision at a time by picking the option closest to your view, so a few minutes is enough to make progress. Do three decisions tonight and three next week; your place is kept.

The baby is already here. Is it too late?

No. Topics are sorted by when they matter, so you can skip what has passed and start with the first year.

Can we use it on two phones?

Yes. Each of you answers on your own phone. Then one of you exports your answers as a file from Compare, under Our plan, and the other imports it there.

For new parents

For new parents: stay on the same page in the first year

In the first year, decisions arrive faster than you can talk about them, and usually when you are both tired. This gives you a calm way to compare where you each stand, a few decisions at a time.

In short

36 decisions in the app belong to the first year (0–12 months), from sleep training to starting solids. Take them one at a time, together: each shows the options and how strong the evidence is. Start with the area causing the most friction.

What tends to come up

Decisions get made in the moment by whoever is awake.
One of you ends up carrying more of the planning without either of you choosing that.
You discover you had different pictures of sleep, feeding or who gets up at night.
There is little time or energy for a long conversation.

Decisions to start with

Each links to a page with the options parents choose between, how strong the evidence is, and questions to ask each other.

Night duty
Who gets up with the baby overnight, to feed, change and settle, and whether you split it, alternate nights or share it.
5 options · Your call · During pregnancy
Mental load and task ownership
Who notices, plans and remembers everything a child needs (appointments, clothes, forms, supplies), not just who does the tasks.
4 options · Your call · During pregnancy
Sleep training
Whether and how to teach your baby to fall asleep and stay asleep on their own.
6 options · Your call · 0–6 months
Schedules or baby-led routines
Whether you follow the baby's cues for feeding and sleep, build a flexible routine, or set a firm schedule.
4 options · Evidence leans one way · 0–6 months
Responding to crying
How quickly and how you respond when your baby cries: immediately every time, after a pause to observe, or letting them fuss for set periods.
3 options · Well established · Around the birth
When to start solids
The age at which you begin offering foods other than milk.
3 options · Well established · 0–6 months
Standards and gatekeeping
Whose way of doing things counts as "right" for everyday care, such as how to swaddle or what bedtime looks like, and whether the other parent is free to do it differently without being corrected.
3 options · Evidence leans one way · During pregnancy
Feedback on each other's parenting
How you will tell each other what is working and what is not: in the moment, privately later, or on a regular check-in.
4 options · Your call · During pregnancy
Burnout prevention
What you will do to avoid running yourselves into the ground: scheduled rest, lowering standards, or buying or asking for help.
4 options · Evidence leans one way · 0–6 months
Protecting the couple relationship
How you will make time for each other as a couple once a baby arrives, from date nights to small daily rituals, rather than waiting until there is time.
4 options · Evidence leans one way · During pregnancy

How to use it in your situation

1
Pick one or two areas that are causing friction now, such as sleep or roles. The welcome asks which areas matter most and starts you there.
2
Take a few decisions together when you have ten minutes, with Both chosen at the top. What you settle is saved as you go.
3
Flag what you cannot settle yet and come back to it. If you would rather not sway each other, answer separately first and open Compare, under Our plan.

What it does not do

It is not a baby tracker and it does not give medical advice. If either of you is struggling with mood, exhaustion or anxiety after the birth, talk to your doctor or midwife.

Questions

We have very little time. How much does it need?: You answer one decision at a time by picking the option closest to your view, so a few minutes is enough to make progress. Do three decisions tonight and three next week; your place is kept.
The baby is already here. Is it too late?: No. Topics are sorted by when they matter, so you can skip what has passed and start with the first year.
Can we use it on two phones?: Yes. Each of you answers on your own phone. Then one of you exports your answers as a file from Compare, under Our plan, and the other imports it there.

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Last updated 2026-10-05. General information, not medical or legal advice.